Capitalism tells us that the self is all-important, because it wants us to be isolated consumers, each making her or her own decisions, without being accountable to one another. Our educational system teaches self-sufficiency and independence, not community and interdependence. Political leaders want us as individual voters who can be reached one at a time by means of the mass media and the Internet. The health industry treats us all as patients, that is, people who wait ‘patient-ly’ in isolation to be treated by the medical system. Even organised religion, which purports to be the most communal and relational of all human endeavours, really wants us to have a private, personal experience of God.